There is as much misconception about Soul Mates as there is about Karma. Most people like to think of soul mates as being the one person who they must find and have a loving relationship with in this life. The truth is a far cry from this perception. Although we cannot discount that we can have loving relationships with a soul mate.

In reality, we have a number of beings with which we have these soul mate connections. Each of them has a different agreement to work out with us, so a soul mate can be the person who you had a dreadful relationship with but learned not to give your power away to. They can be anyone you meet in your life, yet they do not have to be incarnate at this time! Most of them will come in and out of your life if they are incarnate this time, so with each you will have an interesting time even if it isn’t the best of times. So we need to alter our perception of what a soul mate is. As a Soul, you have made many friends and some of these you might even prefer to incarnate with at regular intervals. So in a sense we could say the word ‘mates’ is not that different to the Australian concept of the word, which is friendship! While we would like to meet our soul mates and we think that they should be like this and that, it is we who hold the misconception about it. They do not have to be any way. They only have to be what they chose to be for their incarnation and we do not have the right to judge them if they do not live up to our standards.

We only need to accept that anyone we meet can be a soul mate. At the same time though, we will meet people who we feel like we have known for ages, and these people can be a soul-friend. The reason we feel so strongly about them is because the energy inside you and the energy inside them will resonate with recognition. If we listen to this recognition and not think it has to be the way we want it to be, then we can more easily accept the experiences that they help to bring for us. If you do find a soul mate, do not think that all has to be bliss, because you will be fooling yourself with that perception.

A soul mate can be anyone, even the people you are not attracted to! There is no rule to say that they must be anything you think they should be, and so you must not have expectations regarding them. If you allow them to be recognised then you can work through the agreements you have with them and after that you may not see them again until you have left your current body for good. So do not place so many rocks and blocks in your path by only accepting that soul mates have to be this way or that.

I have met three soul friends in this life. One I instantly knew was a Soul Mate. And I knew she was from the moment I saw her as I recognised the intense feeling. She was a soul mate in the traditional sense of the word, but I was still young and silly, so I did not behave in a way that would have allowed for us to be together for long. This was due to issues I had brought into this life as part of my agreements. The next came into my life thirty years later, and I was aware that she would be in my life, soon. Soon is also a concept that has no reality base in our world. We could say that spiritual time ruins differently to worldly time! This one was a woman who I felt the recognition with immediately, but had to wait seven years before we could try to be together. Funnily enough, she had issues that I had difficulty working through, and with my own issues coming to a head I was easily distracted to the point that I walked away from her before we really got going. The last was one who held a misperception about our last joint past life and the problems it caused, although I recognised very early that this was not meant to be a love relationship.

Simply put, you do have soul mates. But they are usually not what we think they will or should be. So let go of your misperceptions about soul mates and allow the universe to provide these beings as it sees fit, and as it fits with the agreements you all made before incarnating. If you do have a loving relationship with a soul mate that is not helping you to grow in some form, then you are not seeing the agreements clearly and need to clear the thoughts you hold onto. This will be a gift for you even if you do not think it is at the time.